Cultivating a Rich Personal Life

To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.       Confucius 

Experiencing joy and fulfillment in life for me, is about quality time with others, and living creatively.   It seems each year that slips by, I notice my intent to live fully falls short of how I’d really like to live.  Seems so simple to put things in motion when we first ‘set our heart right’.  If our heart is right, then everything else will fall into place.   In the midst of life’s challenges and disappointments and joys and fulfillment, the heart beats on and responds according to the fortitude and attitude within it. 

     Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers.  Good people bring good things out of the good stored up in their heart, and evil people bring evil things out of the evil stored up in their heart. For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.    Luke 6:44-46 (Today’s New International Version, ©2005)

This leads to cultivating our personal lives to be in line with our hearts desire and experiencing the satisfaction of leading a life well-lived.  It means something different to everyone.  Time enjoyed with my two sons, and my sweetheart, time given to family and dear friends.  Slowing down long enough to grab hold of fun and laughing loudly – over a glass of wine, or while x-country skiing.   What else fills me up?  Camping, gardening, cooking, knitting, reading, listening to music.   We all experience that when our cup is ‘full’, all which overflows gets to bless those around us.  It feels great, right?

 The evidence of my personal life being properly cultivated is reflected in the quality of my family being in order.  Again, falling pretty short when I consider Confucious’ order of cause and effect.  So often it seems I’m putting out fires within our family relationships, and doing a lot of damage control. In the scale of balances, we’re tipping to the weighty end more than the light-hearted end.  We experience moments of greatness for sure, and we share deep love that is demonstrated in words and actions.   But the heaviness of our challenges the past couple of years has left me dumbfounded.   This is not the life of intention I had imagined for myself or my little family.  Always knew it wouldn’t be EASY (what is?), but didn’t think it would be quite so HARD.  But I have hope!

I have some ideas for improvement with cultivating my personal life, for assisting my family toward being in order… and we must trust that the Nation and World will line up, as we do our parts.  Thank you for walking alongside and letting me share my thoughts and ramblings, as I nurture along my intention to cultivate a richer personal life.